My Father didn’t have a psychology degree or even a library of well read self-improvement books. What he did have was plenty of dispensable wisdom when it came to most aspects of life. I remember, in particular, him talking to me one evening just before I started secondary school (“way back in the last century”, as my kids frequently remind me!): Continue reading
“I am an old man and I have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened” – Mark Twain
Nice logic Mr Twain. The problem is that most of the time, worry isn’t really the logical thing we might think it is. It’s an emotional response which comes from and feeds stress and anxiety. They make a powerful and (usually) debilitating trio. Continue reading
Have you ever been asked that question? I bet many of us have at some point in our lives. It’s often used as an admonishment when someone thinks we might have got too big for our boots!
I’d like to ask the question in a different way. In a non-judgmental way and as a genuine prompt for us to think about who we are – how do we define ourselves? Continue reading
What a simple statement and yet a profound one.
It’s easy to compare ourselves with other people isn’t it? Especially those we perceive to be doing “better” than us. It gets even more complicated when we consider different aspects of our life e.g. work/career, relationships, finances, health etc. Whilst it’s good to have positive role models, I think there is a fine line between taking ourselves in a good direction (similar to them) and trying to be someone we simply aren’t – and this is one of the areas in which the art of comparison can get distorted and become counter productive. Continue reading